Making (and keeping) a Stay-at-Home Mom Schedule

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I’ve been a stay-at-home mom for almost 3 years now. I feel like I used to be so great at staying on top of things. And then I had a second child. I don’t know what happened in the 16 months he’s been alive, but my day had faded into sitting on the couch trying to make sure the little ones don’t kill each other. The dishwasher didn’t get unloaded until I couldn’t even get to my sink anymore. The laundry wouldn’t get done until I realized I was out of underwear and my husband had no work clothes. Dinner turned into, “do you want a piece of bread?” I had to do something, especially with another baby on the way. I had to come up with a schedule, but staring at my planner was not exactly helpful. So, here’s what I did to get to that point.

 

The first thing I did was make a list. Several lists. I love lists. The first is of stuff that needs to be done every day, no matter how small a thing it is. Yes, “feed my kids” is on there. I promise I’m not a bad mom and I remember to feed them; I mean, how could they let me forget? Things may seem small, but if you leave something off, you may completely leave it out of the schedule. The second list is weekly tasks like grocery shopping and clean out the fridge. A lot of things on the weekly list are cleaning chores. Finally, I made a list for monthly tasks, such as paying bills. Once I had all of this written out, I had a good jumping off point to make my schedule.

SAHM everyday list

 

It seemed best to just go chronologically. When the kids get up seemed to be the most logical choice. However, I am not functional when the two year old decides to get up at 5:30, so I let her watch Curious George or Daniel Tiger until I get up at 6. Even that’s hard for me, but I feel more productive when I actually get up and start my tasks for the day. I took all the tasks from my “daily” list and arranged them on my schedule. I even broke some of them up, like laundry. I could put a load in the washer in the morning, change it out in the afternoon, then fold it and put it away after the kids go to bed. Make sure the order you put everything in works for you, and remember that it’s still fluid, if something isn’t working after a few days, change it up.

 

Once I kind of had my daily schedule worked out, I copied it over to a weekly schedule so I could see my whole week at once. You can use whatever works for you, whether that be a planner, a wall calendar, or weekly printables. I use the weekly calendar printable out of the Mom Planner from Clean Life and Home. P.S. — It’s a great planner and home organizing tool; definitely worth the money. Make sure and block out a time each day to do your weekly or monthly tasks, and be consistent. For instance, grocery shopping on Mondays and cleaning the bathrooms on Thursdays. If you have places to be certain days, make sure and add those in. I have a moms group I go to on Tuesdays, so the schedule is slightly off on Tuesdays. It doesn’t have to be the exact same thing every day.

Don’t forget to include your meal times and plans on your schedule. If you need help getting started, check out my post, Meal Planning for Beginners.

planner left

 

Tip: If all of this writing seems super daunting, here’s what I recommend: make your general daily schedule of the things that won’t or rarely change (getting ready for the day, lunch, etc.). Write it or type it and print it off and post it on your fridge. Then, in your planner, write down the things that change everyday (kids activities, weekly chores, etc.). In mine, I just write out Monday’s schedule and then write “same as Monday” on most of the other days.

 

I work on my schedule every Sunday night. For the most part, it doesn’t change, but I make sure to add in one-off things, like doctors appointments. I also put in my husband’s work schedule since it’s constantly changing. Then I can rearrange some things so we can all spend time as a family. This is especially important since I wouldn’t be able to schedule in family time at the same time every week. When you start to get the hang of it, planning your days and weeks doesn’t take much time and you’ll get into a good habit.

 

We haven’t been doing it long, so our schedule will inevitably have a few tweaks as we continue. And that’s okay. Keep moving things around, taking things off, and adding things until you have a basic schedule that works for your family.

 

What works best for your family? How do you stay on task everyday?

 

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June 26, 2016
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14 Comments

  • Reply Blaire

    Okay, I loved reading the intro – that is so me right now, which is exactly how I found myself on this page! I have a general routine, but I am definitely on the couch (with only one 2y/o to entertain) and not doing chores all day, and spend my free time blogging and researching about blogging. I was laughing reading that. So thank you for being so open and letting me know I’m not the only one. My plan was to add in pre-school-esque things into our routine (now that she wants to help and can learn things) so that I can get myself off the couch and maybe even into bed earlier…note the time 🙂 Thanks again! Great post!

    October 23, 2016 at 2:03 am
    • Reply Veronica @ Anderson Homestead

      I’m also trying to do some of the preschool things, but it does get hard. We’re still not great at following the schedule everyday, but at least I feel like I got something done during the day. And yes to the being awake at 2 in the morning.

      October 23, 2016 at 7:22 pm
  • Reply Amy

    Oh man. Are we the same person? I have a four year old in school, a nearly two year old, and number three came August 30th. We also recently took custody of our four year old niece. I also spend my day refereeing between toddlers from the couch and not getting anything done until the point it simply can’t remain undone. I love this schedule idea, and I hope it helps us! Gonna work on it starting today along with implementing a “one touch” rule for putting items in the appropriate place right away instead of procrastinating about everything.

    October 25, 2016 at 10:17 am
    • Reply Veronica @ AndersonHomestead

      I definitely need to work on the one-touch rule. It makes so much sense!

      October 25, 2016 at 10:54 am
  • Reply Kathye

    Love this Thank you

    October 26, 2016 at 8:14 am
  • Reply Erin

    You described my life in your first paragraph….once second baby came along (boys are 21 months apart), I felt helpless. I couldn’t juggle everything and dropped the ball in various places, repeatedly, every day. Eventually, my standards dropped more than I was happy with, I became unhappy and more depressed and now I feel so out of control trying to manage it all. Trying to get into the schedule thing. I’ve tried before, but I always seem to let it slip away after the first week when the weekend comes and things get super relaxed. Praying for endurance and motivation to follow through. Thank you for sharing this.

    October 31, 2016 at 12:17 pm
    • Reply Veronica @ AndersonHomestead

      I completely understand. I am always revising what we do each day so it works for us. Prayers that you can find something that works for your family.

      October 31, 2016 at 3:21 pm
  • Reply Taylor Greenwald

    I am so glad I found your blog! This post is so what I needed to read. I have two girls, 20 months apart, and sit at the table trying to work, but constantly have to get up to keep them from fighting. Lol. It’s fun (sometimes) but I have another one on the way and the house is a mess. We are also moving into our first home tomorrow! Thank you for writing. ? This post motivates me to keep going. ??❤️❤️

    March 13, 2017 at 10:28 pm
    • Reply Veronica @ AndersonHomestead

      I totally get it. It’s not always (ever) easy, but if you have even a little control over the schedule, it seems like it ca make the whole day better. Especially with two little ones.

      March 14, 2017 at 7:29 am
  • Reply Rose Barnett (@mRoseBarnett)

    it’s been nearly a year for you, how is your schedule working? I have seen over the years that I tend to re-work my schedule quite frequently. I can’t seem to keep it for even 3 months. Things are always evolving when you have growing little ones, or additions to your family. I have been considering writing a post on this but it’s such a hard topic to feel successful in, I just don’t know how to attack it. But I think you did well.

    July 10, 2017 at 6:28 am
    • Reply Veronica @ AndersonHomestead

      It has definitely evolved. Our biggest problem now is that my husband’s hours are all over the place, so the days he gets off, we tend to drop the schedule completely, then it’s hard to get back on. I’m working on revamping it, so that it’s a bit more flexible now.

      July 10, 2017 at 2:25 pm
  • Reply Meredith Gallie

    I love schedules!! Great blog! I’m also a SAHM vlogger. My YouTube channel name is “Surviving As Mom”. Please check it out 🙂

    July 12, 2017 at 7:48 pm
  • Reply Ronnie

    Omgosh! I would beat myself up every time my husband was home and my schedule was somehow chunked out the window! I feel so much better now! Lol. I don’t even know how that happens… It just does when he ends up home. But this post was great! I’ve been struggling with the home management thing… And I just have one very rambunctious 2 yr old. But one of my greatest desires is to run my home in excellence and I’m focusing on doing that now. I’m making a home management binder right now and I think that will help me alot. So I’m excited about that. Your tips will help with my scheduling. Great post! Thanks a million! 🙂

    Ronnie

    August 28, 2017 at 10:56 pm
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