With little kids, working on a marriage can be hard. Since I’m a stay-at-home mom, our budget has been cut, and there’s often not time to go out on a date with my husband. The best way to rekindle our romance is to spend time together after the kids have gone to bed. Here are five ideas to have fun with your spouse even while you’re stuck at home. Some are fun and flirty, while others are more sexy.
This idea is probably best used when it’s nice outside (though it can be fun to cuddle up when it’s cold out). If you have a tent, pitch it in the backyard. Lie out under the stars and discuss your hopes and dreams. Reminisce about how you met or your first date. If you’re feeling adventurous, try some other things in your own backyard, but you may want to make sure the kids are good and asleep if you go that route since there’s no door to lock. Keep the baby monitor with you if you’re nervous about little visitors.
Cooking a Fancy Dinner
This one takes a little more planning. Look through old recipe books or online, and find a meal that both of you would like to try. The best recipes for this date are ones that take some prep so both of you can spend some time together in the kitchen. It’s not the same when you just throw something in the oven and wait. Make sure you have all the ingredients, or go get them. After the kids have been put to bed for the night, get started making your meal together. One person chops veggies while the other slices beef. Even though a delicious meal is the goal, getting there with your spouse is all the fun.
Have there been movies you’ve wanted to see, but haven’t had the time or funds to go see it in a theatre? Rent it and watch it at home. If you have an on-demand service like Amazon or Netflix, you don’t even have to leave the house. Pop some popcorn, and make sure you have your favorite candy and sodas. It’s just like going to the movies, but you can get more comfortable. If you have a TV in your bedroom, cuddle up in bed and watch your movie.
There are tons of two-person games out there now. Find one to do together. You could do something as simple as a puzzle (but that’s not nearly as competitive). Find a new game to figure out together or pull out an old classic. Grab a deck of cards and look up new games online. Play Monopoly at your own risk. As always, make sure you have snacks on hand.
Build Something Together
If you or your husband have tools, put them to good use. Find plans or make your own. You could make something for your children or for yourselves. You’ll learn how to work together even more and have something to show for it in the end. If you’re wanting to complete it in one night, make it simple. Don’t have the tools or the skills for that? Put together a bookcase you bought from the store. And after having made a mess, make sure you clean up together afterward.
Taking care of your marriage is important, especially after kids come. Don’t miss out on each other just because it’s hard to get out of the house together. Remember, some of these may be more fun than others, but the real key is to build communication and spend quality time together.